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#1 Mon 12/28/09 10:23 pm

wasteland
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What do I do when people make fun of me?

what do i do if people make fun of me for switching to a vegan diet? i used to love breakfast sandwiches and bacon, but became a vegan for at least a month now.

This is what happened: When my classmates offered me breakfast sandwich with eggs and cheese, I said, "No thanks." He asked, "Why not?" I said, "I don't eat eggs and cheese anymore." This other girl asked me, "But isn't that what you've been eating for the whole semester?"

How should I reply to them? I just feel like they are giving me a hard time.

I feel like I've been made fun of because I switched to a vegan diet not so long ago. People are making comments that I ate something before, but now I don't eat it anymore. I just feel like they view me as a poser even though I don't try. I became a vegan because of animal cruelty and health reasons.

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#2 Mon 12/28/09 10:39 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

Maybe posting this in the Foyer would be a better place?

First, it's great you are vegan, regardless of it only being a month. 

My advice: do what's right for you, and don't let what others think (or what you think others think) about it veganism affect you.  Like you said, you are doing it for animal cruelty (and health reasons), so *that's* what matters. 

You can always reply to them by saying something like, "yeah, I used to eat those things but I'm aware now of the animal cruelty/health issues that go along with those foods, so I'm switching to a compassionate, healthy way of living by being vegan." 

You never know, you might inspire some of them to go vegan as well.


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Insular behavior [fighting against, criticizing, mocking those who disagree] makes your movement...irrelevant, and at the end of the day, doesn't help the animals. -Tofulish

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#3 Mon 12/28/09 10:39 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

Just say "I've decided to stop"?  Most of us have omni pasts, you have to start somewhere.  Something like the comment that you ate something before doesn't necessarily mean that they're trying to give you a hard time, you could just say you've been reading and looking into veganism and it makes sense to you so you've decided to give it a try.


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#4 Mon 12/28/09 11:56 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

"I've had a change of heart about my lifestyle."  If people want to participate in a polite conversation about why, that's alright.  If they give you a hard time, tell them to go ____________ themselves.  Or you can just tell them it's not their business when they ask why.

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#5 Tue 12/29/09 6:44 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

Everyone's gotta start somewhere! Just tell them politely that you've just started. Every journey's got to have a beginning.

I'm going through the same thing with my mother in law. I went back to just a vegetarian diet for the past two months due to pregnancy cravings, and I decided that I wanted to stop and got back to veganism on Christmas. She was (literally) trying to stuff vegetarian pizza in my mouth, and I had to stop her and say "I don't eat dairy anymore.", to which of course I got, "But you just ate it last week!"

Again, everyone's got to start somewhere. Just stay polite and firm and you'll be fine! Good luck!


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#6 Tue 12/29/09 7:32 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

I don't think asking why you're doing something different is making fun of you. Even as a vegan myself I'd still be curious about why someone else changed their mind about food or diet (or any lifestyle choice), especially if it was someone I knew well. People don't always have negative reasons in mind when they question things... But if they give you a hard time, just flat out say you're willing to explain your reasons but you're not interested in starting an argument. Being arsey won't get either of you anywhere!

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#7 Tue 12/29/09 7:47 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

I agree that it doesn't seem like they are making fun of you. However, I do totally understand what you're saying. I hate talking about my diet for some reason and never bring it up(eventhough it's appearently so interesting all my friends do to random people). Whenever someone offers me something I generally just say "no thank you," " I just ate" or something along those lines. When I first stopped eating meat/dairy I just told everyone I wanted to switch up my diet for a little while. That didn't really raise any questions. One thing that really annoys me is being asked the same questions over and over. You get that a lot with a crazy proteinless diet.


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#8 Tue 12/29/09 7:57 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

Everyone has to start somewhere. When I first switched to veganism, some people in my family wondered why, too, but I just told them, it was the next logical step for me, and after reading about the cruelty inherent in dairy and egg farming, I just couldn't do it. Sometimes I just said "Well, I just don't want to eat that stuff anymore." People are curious creatures, even I want to know why other vegans made the switch sometimes. If they do make fun, just say "It's a personal decision, and this is the right choice for me. You can do what you want, but I'd appreciate it if you respected my choices, thanks."


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#9 Tue 12/29/09 7:57 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

Bake them cookies. It's hard to make fun of someone who just gave you a cookie. Especially if they want another cookie. ;-)


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#10 Tue 12/29/09 8:32 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

First of all, where are you in life? School obviously, but high school or college/uni? It relates to how open people are to new ways of living life.
I'm with pretty much everyone here. Just say you've just started and it4s for cruelty/health reasons. If they want to know more elaborate, if they don't ask don't tell. If they make shitty jokes, sit somewhere else for lunch.

As you live in this world you will start recognising certain people and their reaction on your, obviously very extreme to them, lifestyle. Some will mock, others will understand. And with that understanding will come a development in how you answer it. We, old old people, know tons of funny quips in which to tell people off for [some misunderstanding/prejudice/whatever], but that requires time and being confronted with all those stupid questions omnis are going to ask you.

- Wally

For now, you have made a big decision: Give your friends/schoolmates time to understand


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#11 Tue 12/29/09 8:50 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

indigo wrote:

"I've had a change of heart about my lifestyle."  If people want to participate in a polite conversation about why, that's alright.

I think this is a sensible approach - just tell them that you've become better informed about some things and decided that you wanted to make some changes. If they want to have a conversation about it, then go ahead and discuss it; if they seem unreceptive or as if they just want to hassle you, you can just say something like, "Everyone has to make their own choices" and let it drop. Your friends will get used to you being vegan (or not), but the main point is that you've made a wonderful, compassionate decision, so be proud! (And be sure to hang out on the PPK when you need encouragement, advice about what to cook/eat, or just a laugh!)


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#12 Tue 12/29/09 9:38 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

What has worked for me in deflecting attention away from what I am not eating is to whip out what I am eating.  Choirqueer has it right - hand out cookies, muffins, scones or any other kind of vegan breakfast goody while they are eating breakfast sandwiches.  That way, you are all still eating together, and your food will be tastier.  The same thing at lunch, dinner, etc.  If people see you eating delicious food, it becomes about what you are eating and not about what you are not eating.
People are bound to be curious whenever someone they know well makes a lifestyle change.  I wouldn't automatically assume that they are making fun of you - they may just be trying to get their heads around a concept that is new to them.   Smile, educate, hand out baked treats.  You will feel more comfortable in no time.
Congratulations!


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#13 Tue 12/29/09 9:45 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

Unhelpful answer: HTFU

It doesn't sound like people are really making fun of you or accusing you of being a poser, just asking questions. It can be irritating, but try not to take it personally. Most people know nothing about veganism, except maybe something about lettuce leaf bikinis and that one episode of Top Chef..

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#14 Tue 12/29/09 11:51 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

you will always have questions from people you meet.  All my friends and family are used to my lifestyle, but everytime i meet someone knew and veganism comes up, they always have tons of questions.  I actually like talking about it, as long as they open to hearing about it.

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#15 Tue 12/29/09 12:07 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

not really helpful but when family (his) gives me a hard time my response is this - "do i make fun of you for eating decaying carcasses?  no?  then stfu!


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#16 Tue 12/29/09 12:24 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

I'm with some  of the other people who responded - it doesn't sound like they're really making fun of you so much as they're asking questions (and/or maaaaybe trying to catch you out on some kind of ethical inconsistency). The best thing you can do is just have your head on straight and keep your cool. It's totally normal and okay for your friends to ask you about your new dietary choice; it actually gives you a great opportunity to tell them in a calm, non-preachy way about why you think veganism is awesome. The worst thing you can do is get stressed out and defensive. I know lots of people talk about "comebacks" and coming up with snappy/snarky answers to annoying questions about veganism, but frankkly, I think that probably just makes vegans look kind of defensive, not awesome. Remember that they're just questions and that the only person's behavior in that situation that you can control is your own, so stay calm, answer the questions, and don't sweat it too much.

Good job on going vegan, also, and welcome to the PPK!


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#17 Tue 12/29/09 1:05 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

jordanpattern wrote:

The worst thing you can do is get stressed out and defensive. I know lots of people talk about "comebacks" and coming up with snappy/snarky answers to annoying questions about veganism, but frankkly, I think that probably just makes vegans look kind of defensive, not awesome.
Good job on going vegan, also, and welcome to the PPK!

i agree and i should add that the ones giving me a hard time are the very ones who's mother (my sil) gave up dairy a couple of weeks ago and is now vegan.  never in their lives would they dare make fun of her, but they will make all kinds of assinine comments to me.


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#18 Tue 12/29/09 4:40 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

+1 to just politely saying you've decided to switch to veganism.


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#19 Tue 12/29/09 4:54 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

Just tell them you've changed. You're vegan now. Screw your past. Or, more eloquently:

Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote:

Wise men are not wise at all hours, and will speak five times from their taste or their humor, to once from their reason.

Blaise Pascal wrote:

Contradiction is not a sign of falsity, nor the lack of contradiction a sign of truth.


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#20 Tue 12/29/09 5:31 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

chatter710 wrote:

Just tell them you've changed. You're vegan now. Screw your past. Or, more eloquently:

Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote:

Wise men are not wise at all hours, and will speak five times from their taste or their humor, to once from their reason.

Blaise Pascal wrote:

Contradiction is not a sign of falsity, nor the lack of contradiction a sign of truth.

Excellent quotes, chatter!


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#21 Tue 12/29/09 5:48 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

I work with a lot of people who sometimes give me a (friendly) hard time about how I once upon a time ate omni food. When they start teasing about how I used to eat this or that I say " When I was one I shitaked in my pants all the time, and I grew out of that too." But I am not nearly as eloquent as Mr. Emerson.

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#22 Tue 12/29/09 5:56 pm

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

designedtobekind wrote:

Everyone has to start somewhere. When I first switched to veganism, some people in my family wondered why, too, but I just told them, it was the next logical step for me, and after reading about the cruelty inherent in dairy and egg farming, I just couldn't do it. Sometimes I just said "Well, I just don't want to eat that stuff anymore." People are curious creatures, even I want to know why other vegans made the switch sometimes. If they do make fun, just say "It's a personal decision, and this is the right choice for me. You can do what you want, but I'd appreciate it if you respected my choices, thanks."

This is the way to go – no question. smile


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#23 Wed 12/30/09 12:53 am

wasteland
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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

Sorry if I post this topic in the wrong section.
Wow! Thank you so much for the suggestions. I really appreciate it! It makes me think more. Sometimes, it's hard to put it in words. Great advices! I'm definitely going to note all of them. I'm so dumb for not figuring this out earlier. big_smile

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#24 Wed 12/30/09 10:24 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

wasteland wrote:

Sorry if I post this topic in the wrong section.
Wow! Thank you so much for the suggestions. I really appreciate it! It makes me think more. Sometimes, it's hard to put it in words. Great advices! I'm definitely going to note all of them. I'm so dumb for not figuring this out earlier. big_smile

You're not dumb; you're just new at this (which probably means that when you're vegan for longer, you'll think past-you was dumb). Make note of the quotes. If they don't exactly help, they sure as hell will impress people.


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#25 Wed 12/30/09 11:24 am

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Re: What do I do when people make fun of me?

My original response, upon reading the title, was "punch them in the face," but I think everybody else's advice is probably more mature.

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